In the quest for self-improvement and seizing our purpose, many of us often find ourselves fixating on what we should avoid or eliminate from our lives. Whether it’s vowing not to drink that 3rd cup of coffee or resisting other indulgences, the approach of focusing on the negative can sometimes leave us feeling overwhelmed and discouraged.

Here are some potentially more effective ways to achieve our goals and make lasting changes from Dr. Mike T Nelson (recorded for League of Souls).

Shifting Your Subconscious Mind

Our minds are incredibly powerful, and they often respond better to positive reinforcement than to negativity. When we focus on what we want to achieve or include in our lives, it can have a profound impact on our subconscious. This shift in focus can reprogram our brains to actively seek out and embrace the desired behaviors and choices.

Visualizing Success

Think of your subconscious mind as a camera that constantly captures images and scenarios. By concentrating on positive actions and goals, you create a mental image of success. This visual image tends to stay with you longer and influences your decision-making more effectively than dwelling on what you should avoid.

This isn’t about “positive vibes only”

A word of warning, positive focus is not a catch all strategy for how to navigate your life. There are so many instances where paying attention to your darkness is absolutely the right strategy – but that’s for a later topic.

Applying Positive Focus to Achieve Goals

Now, let’s consider a common scenario: trying to eat healthier. Instead of presenting yourself with a “naughty or nice” list of foods to avoid, shift your mindset to focus on what you want to include in your diet. For example:

  • Emphasize adding more protein-rich foods to your meals.
  • Prioritize foods that offer greater nutritional value.
  • Set goals for getting adequate sleep to support your overall well-being.

By concentrating on these positive aspects of nutrition, you’re subtly reprogramming your subconscious mind. Your brain starts looking for opportunities to fulfill these goals, making it easier to make healthier choices naturally.

The traditional approach of berating oneself for indulging in forbidden treats often leads to guilt and a cycle of unhealthy eating. By steering clear of negative reinforcement and instead emphasizing positive changes, you can create a more sustainable path to success.

The power of positive focus lies in its ability to influence our subconscious minds and drive us toward our goals. Whether you’re striving for better nutrition, improved fitness, or any other personal development objective, what you focus on grows.

By concentrating on what you want to embrace, you can make lasting changes without a shame spiral. So, shift your mindset and let the power of positive focus guide you on your path to a healthier and happier life.


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